Bringing up the subject of sex fantasies can be intimidating. Even men who are usually dominant socially find themselves stuttering and murmuring whenever they suggest anything beyond the missionary position. There is something about a quiet, not confident voice that just says ‘wimp’ to women. At best it shows that you are only confident in certain situations: not an attractive trait!
The first thing that all men have to work on is their voice. Confidence and sex-appeal come from men who know exactly what they want and how to get it. Communicate directly about sex and be honest about what sexual fantasy scenarios turn you on. This kind of communication gets your message across and she will respect you a lot more!
I Want to Try This Fantasy, Why Won’t She Let Me?
There are many reasons why women don’t want to try certain fantasies. One of the key ones is that she worries that you will consider it degrading or slutty if she says ‘yes’. This is one key thing that it is never too early in your relationship to make sure that she understands: nothing that she could possibly say will alter your perception of her. I also make sure that she feels that her sexual side is as valued as her classy side. Understanding that she has both sides to her personality will go a long way in making sure that you have a strong relationship and great sex.
A lot of men forget that sex fantasies are not just about them: there are two people involved! This can come as shocking news to many guys as they have some crazy ideas that they don’t believe women could possibly enjoy. If you are doing any sex fantasy correctly then it should be pleasurable for her and for you. If you do anal sex correctly it should stimulate a lot of erogenous zones in the vagina. Likewise bondage can be about dominance and giving complete control to someone else, which can be erotic if done correctly.
Being A Sex Master
Generally women like men who are in control and know what they are doing. A guy who stumbles through a sex act, not really knowing what is going on is not just un-manly, but also potentially dangerous. Whoever is playing the dominant role in a sex fantasy must know exactly what is happening at each stage of the fantasy. If a fantasy gets out of hand and you lose control, you must stop it immediately. This is your responsibility.
The great thing about sex fantasy is that it is a celebration of the two of you and your relationship. You can show each other your most sexual, uninhibited sides and know that your partner will love that side of you. Make sure that it remains mutually enjoyable and soon you will be having the kind of sex that you only fantasized about.